For a lot of couples, sex can get boring really fast. What is supposed to be a naked channel of mind-blowing interconnection turns into something else. Sex often becomes nothing more than a mutual answer to biological needs.
Or even worse, sex becomes one of those things that we hardly ever talk about – let alone do. We see it in movies, see it on our computer screens, and we visualize it in our heads. But how can you find or rekindle that spark if you and your partner live in different worlds?
New couples can have this problem as well. How can we get out of our heads and more into our bodies? How can we let our guards down and open ourselves to each other emotionally and sensually?
That is where intimacy lies, and it’s what we all want for our relationships. Many couples have found that bringing cannabis into the bedroom facilitates the very connection they want and need.
Combining Our Favorite Plant
With Our Favorite Activity
Learning how to make sex better by using cannabis can be a great way to navigate the sometimes tricky labyrinth of sexuality.
Marijuana can bring you and your partner closer than you’ve ever imagined.
“It’s difficult to open up and to bare your soul, the parts of you that are confused or that like another person,” says Dr. Nick Karras, sexologist and couples coach. “Sexuality is vulnerability.”
Dr. Karras has been studying sex and cannabis for some time, and he believes the two go very well together.
He’s found that while a lot of people use alcohol to loosen up their inhibitions before a sexual experience, cannabis can bring you to a much more potent place.
“Cannabis allows you to connect with other people, but from a place of acute awareness. It doesn’t allow you to lie to yourself in a sense,” he says. “Instead it allows you to be much more sensual.”
Lose the Inhibitions and Be Yourself
After a few puffs it will be much easier to set aside everything else and focus on each other.
Carol from Vancouver has been using cannabis in the bedroom for more than 30 years. It has definitely kept her marriage fun and vibrant.
“Cannabis has never failed me. It helps me focus and all my inhibitions just drop away,” she says. “I use it to shift my energy from work or parenting into a more sensuous mood.”
Carol talks about how marijuana imbues her with a sense of happiness, optimism and joy, feelings that she believes are an important part of not just sex but of living life.
“Most women are pretty self-conscious of body image or aging or whatever, and for me, marijuana totally strips that away,” she says. “It allows me to be myself and to be happy with who I am in the moment.”
The biggest thing, Carol says, is that everybody gives it a try and to be patient while you learn how cannabinoids interact with your body.
Choose Your Method of Ingestion
Experienced cannabis users tend to have a preferred method. They know what works best for them. But just as with choosing a strain, remember that this is about a shared intimate experience – you want the ingestion to be part of the foreplay.
A little bit of cannabis goes a long way in the bedroom.
Certain methods of ingestion may be preferable over others, depending on your tastes. If you find you don’t like something in particular, know that you can later experiment with an alternative method and have completely different results.
Even if you’re used to smoking, your partner may not find this method of ingestion so agreeable.
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Know Your Intentions When Using Pot
Clear intent is an important part of marijuana use on any occasion. Knowing exactly what you want from this plant and the many marijuana effects is the best way to get the most out of its psychoactive properties.
The intention could be work-related; it could be to relax, or to share an intimate moment with another person.
A lot of people smoke pot without ever realizing the power of intent, and how it’s a key principle of being a responsible cannabis user.
And of course for newcomers, it’s impossible to exercise any kind of intent. How can you know when you’re first getting acquainted with how marijuana effects you? And for most people it does take a few times before they feel that first THC kick.
But once you’ve tried out a few different strains, you’ll be familiar enough with the herb to exercise exactly the intent you want for the bedroom.
Get intimate with Cannabis & Sex. Article by Gregory Frye